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  • Writer's pictureMahaley Patel, LMFT

A Mother's Guide: Supporting Your Daughter Through Miscarriage

By: Mahaley Patel, LMFT, Clinical Director


Miscarriage is a deeply personal and often heart-wrenching experience that affects not only the person carrying the pregnancy but also their loved ones, including parents. As a parent, witnessing your daughter go through such a loss can leave you feeling helpless, unsure of how to provide comfort and support during this difficult time. While every individual copes with miscarriage differently, there are several ways you can offer support and be there for your daughter as she navigates through her grief.


1. Open Communication:


Encourage open and honest communication with your daughter. Let her know that you are there for her whenever she needs to talk, cry, or just sit in silence. Create a safe space where she feels comfortable expressing her emotions without fear of judgment.


2. Validate Her Feelings:


Miscarriage can evoke a wide range of emotions, including sadness, anger, guilt, and even relief. Validate your daughter's feelings and let her know that whatever she is experiencing is normal and valid. Avoid phrases like "You'll get over it" or "It wasn't meant to be," as they can minimize her emotions.


3. Listen Empathetically:


Practice active listening by focusing on what your daughter is saying without interrupting or offering unsolicited advice. Sometimes, all she may need is a compassionate ear to listen to her thoughts and feelings without trying to fix them.


4. Respect Her Privacy:


Respect your daughter's need for privacy. While some may find solace in sharing their experience openly, others may prefer to grieve privately. Let her lead the way in terms of who she wants to confide in and how much information she wants to share.


5. Offer Practical Support:


Offer practical assistance with daily tasks such as cooking, cleaning, or running errands. Taking care of these responsibilities can feel overwhelming for someone grieving a miscarriage, and your support can provide much-needed relief during this time.


6. Educate Yourself:


Take the time to educate yourself about miscarriage and its emotional impact. Understanding the physical and emotional aspects of miscarriage can help you empathize with your daughter's experience and provide more meaningful support.


7. Avoid Clichés:


While it may be well-intentioned, avoid using clichés or platitudes such as "Everything happens for a reason" or "At least you can try again." These phrases can feel dismissive and invalidate your daughter's grief. Instead, offer genuine empathy and support without trying to minimize her pain.


8. Encourage Self-Care:


Encourage your daughter to prioritize self-care and engage in activities that bring her comfort and solace. Walking, yoga, taking a hot bath, and spending time with friends are just a few examples of things that might bring her comfort.


9. Acknowledge Significant Dates:


Miscarriage anniversaries, due dates, and holidays can be particularly challenging for someone who has experienced pregnancy loss. Acknowledge these significant dates and offer your support and understanding during these times.


10. Be Patient:


Grieving is a nonlinear process, and your daughter may experience waves of intense emotions long after the miscarriage has occurred. Be patient and understanding and let her know that you are there for her for as long as she needs.


11. Seek Professional Help if Needed:


If your daughter is struggling to cope with her grief or experiencing symptoms of depression or anxiety, encourage her to seek professional help. A therapist or counselor specializing in pregnancy loss can provide valuable support and guidance during this challenging time.


12. Take Care of Yourself:


Supporting a loved one through miscarriage can be an emotional process, so don't forget to take care of yourself as well. Seek support from friends, family members, or a support group to help you navigate your own emotions and experiences.



Supporting your daughter through miscarriage requires patience, empathy, and unconditional love. By creating a safe and supportive environment, validating her feelings, and offering practical assistance, you can help your daughter navigate through her grief and heal in her own time. Remember to be patient, listen without judgment, and prioritize self-care for both you and your daughter as you journey through this difficult time together.

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If you find yourself in need of support, don't hesitate to reach out and schedule a session. Our dedicated team at Empty Nest Counseling is here to help you navigate life's challenges and transitions with care and compassion. Whether you're experiencing difficulties related to the milestones of becoming an Empty Nester or new grandparent or finding balance in how you relate to your adult children, our therapists are ready to support you. We offer both in-person and virtual therapy. Schedule a therapy or vitality coaching session with us today and take the first step towards a healthier you. Remember, you don't have to face it alone – we're here for you.


If your daughter is in need of professional help or community support, please let her know that she can reach out to us as well. Our dedicated team at Ready Nest Counseling is here to help her navigate life's challenges and transitions with care and compassion. We offer both in-person and virtual therapy. She can schedule a therapy session with us today as we have counselors with immediate availability.


Ready Nest Constellations are specialized spaces for your daughter to connect in a new way and find community and support along her journey. We have a six-week Miscarriage & Early Loss support group led by a counselor with specialized training to support her. Encourage her to join the Miscarriage & Early Loss waitlist today by emailing groups@readynestcounseling.com with Join the Waitlist: Miscarriage & Early Loss in the subject line. She'll be contacted when the start date is set for the Constellation to launch the next round of the group. We have several other Constellation groups that may be a fit. You can read more about our Constellations on our website.


Through this group format, your daughter will learn how to process where she's at in her journey, how to survive in the present, and how to cultivate and sustain coping tools for the future. Meeting online, she'll be able to connect with others from all over the world, bringing a sense of unity and diversity to her experience. Prior to the group's start date, she'll receive a beautifully curated box of resources and tools to use through the six weeks.

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